growth

The trap is picking a disagreement so trivial that being wrong cost nothing. They want a real call you fought for, the specific evidence that flipped you, and the operating change you carry now so the same blind spot doesn't bite twice.

The safe-but-failing move is feedback that's secretly a humblebrag ('I cared too much'). The graded version is feedback that stung because it was true, a non-defensive intake, and a specific behavior you changed that someone later noticed.